Tips for Choosing a Maid of Honor

How to choose your maid of honor? Though there are many options for you in your friends, it’s still not a very easy work. It’s more complicated than it looks.
Bear in mind that unexpected things may happen at any time in your wedding, no wedding is perfect though you have take pains to try. Some of them may just because your maid of Honor's duties are often vaguely defined, and worse, poorly communicated. Have you ever considered them? 
Thus the first thing for you to know is that what does a maid of honor do. On one end of the spectrum, she's a ceremonial figure who steps off the plane and walks down the aisle before the other bridesmaids. When you choose a maid of honor, you are choosing a person to help you with all aspects of your wedding. A maid of honor should help you find your dress, coordinate the purchase of all the brides maid’s dresses, throw a bridal shower, and take care of all the little details on your wedding day to make sure you aren’t stressed. Most often, the maid of honor is somewhere in the middle. She leads the bachelorette party and/or bridal shower, and tries to "be there" for the bride during the planning process, and the ceremony itself. So when the time comes to choose a maid of honor, but you stop and think. Is she really the right choice? If you have any doubt in your mind whatsoever, you should really stop and think about your friend, and what you are asking her to do for you.
Here are some tips on choosing and communicating with your maid of honor for minimum stress, and maximum happiness.
Bear them in mind.
1) Tell her what you really want.
It’s very important! More than one bride has shed tears because a maid of honor couldn't read her mind. For example: many brides wish their Maids of honor could give a little speech at the reception, but never get around to asking them. If it's important to you, talk about it! All this flexibility leaves a lot of room for misunderstandings. And they happen a lot. The world is full of brides who feel hurt and let down by close friends as the big day draws near. Do you want to be one of them? Of course not! So you should communicate with your maid of honor to express your own idea to her.
2) It doesn't have to be family.
Some brides think that the role must be played by your family member such as your sister or other family. Actually, not. If your best friend's a loyal trooper who goes with you on all the errands, choose her. She deserves it. And sometimes an intimate usually get a better knowledge of you.
3) What’s a maid of honor’s duty.
1. Coordinate with the other bridesmaids and keep everyone on the same page.
2. Assist with the rehearsal dinner.
3. Keep in close touch with the bride and cater to her concerns and needs.
4. Help the bride with her hair, makeup, and accessories on the big day.
5. Serve as a witness in the signing of the marriage license.
6. Assist the bride with her veil and train, if her gown has one. Also, take care of her bouquet during the marriage ceremony.
7. Hang onto the groom’s ring until the appropriate time.
8. Make one hell of a toast to commemorate your dear friend’s new adventures in life and love!
4) Be realistic. look at past performance and look at her life ahead.

Weddings are exciting. When everything's new and you've just announced your plans, lots of people will offer to help. But not everyone will manage to follow through. Who came through for you before the wedding? Who actually managed to rearrange their schedules to be with you, even when inconvenient? These are the people to rely on. No matter how exciting your plans, they won't make an overcommitted person more available to you. Avoid the trap of asking such a person because you think your wedding will be "important enough" for them to "change their ways," and you'll avoid all the stress and hardship of a disappointing maid of Honor. No matter what a treasure your maid of honor is, she has limits, too. Is she expecting a new baby? Is she working through a divorce? If these things slow her down, which they probably will, can you pick up the slack without feeling disappointed?
5) Pick someone local if you need a lot of help.
This is easy to understand. Get a local maid of honor, she can offer you a lot of help. If she wishes, she can help you find the perfect location for the wedding, select her wedding invitations, decorations, and wedding favors. If you hubby-to-be doesn’t want to go through the bridal registry hoopla, she may take the time to help you register for her desired wedding gifts.
6) Consider more than one maid of honor
If you just can't decide, try this idea. There is no rule to limit the number of the maid of honor. Of course you can have more than one.But keep in mind, this can cause problems too. Can your Maids of honor divide responsibilities, communicate well and avoid feelings of jealousy? So you’d better take everything into consideration to aviod something unexpected.

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